Relationship of Husband & Wife

 There is a way of Life Since the begining of human race. Human race starts with the creation of Adam(A.S) and Eve. Hense the first ever relation created was being a Husband and a Wife. They Are the Father and Mother of all mankind.

Although this was the first ever relation but it got soo complicated over time or people make it soo difficult. Husbands are disturbed more than ever wifes are desperate and depressed than ever both are continuously in arguments and annoyed. A Relation which should be the reason of mental peace and happiness and help grow both is becoming tiring and burdensome making couple unhappy and stressed out. 

There are some simple things which both partners understand before marriage which somehow helps them build a better and strong relation. If a husband thinks my wife should be like me or adept according to me etc or wife thinks my husband should be like this and that then its time for both of them to rethink. Both belongs to different families have different backgrounds and brought up. They absolutely not think that my life partner will be like i want him/her to be, or will be exactly like me. If the children of the same parents are all different then how can you expect a person from and entirely different flesh and blood be like you or change according to you. 

What we need to do is accept each other with all goods and bads with all differences, every person has shortfalls nobody is perfect. Firstly both accept all differences and secondly respect all those differences. When we accept yes this  person is like this and will remain like this contentment overlap their relation and their relation build on the solid base of respect. When you criticise your partner and try to change them a tug of war type tension build within this relation where both try their best to let other fail which ends on failure of their relation. They may live their life as husband and wife but the essence died only ego lived. 

Never ever compare your husband or wife with someone else, it is a disgrace of your relationship. Husband and wife meant to be supportive of each other and always keeps each other's back strongly. It may seem to you that someone's husband or wife is perfect, but its not in reality. By doing this you are doing no good to you ,only it makes you think low of your relationship. Because your husband or wife are not going to be changed with that desired person, which is ideal in only your imagination. It only makes your relationship sour.

Never ever show disrespect to your spouse or make fun of your wife in front of anyone, not even in front of your kids. Husband and wife are two pillers on which a solid bridge is constructed which is called home for their kids. Husband wife and kids are complete family. If you make fun of your husband or wife you are destroying other piller hense cause shaking the base of your home sweet home. One thing which you always keep in mind is that kids never ever forget someone who disrespect their mother or cause her distress. They will never ever give respect and love to that person, and if a husband thinks it is perfectly okey to be rude with his wife or make fun of her in front of his already existing family then its point to remember that he is giving his kids bad memories which they never forget ever in their life and be a cause of reducing their love and respect. He should not complain later in his life that i do this much for my kids but they do not love me or respect me i deserved being a father.

Arguments are inevitable but the thing to keep in mind is never ever let anyone knows that you have an argument because when we are angry or arguing we tend to use words or talk about things which we really didn't mean. If people got to get glimpse of your arguments they only enjoy a free show and only fuel it further rather than sort it out which makes things worst and in some cases ended with the end of that relation.  Its easy to have arguments behind the walls of your room, kiss and patch up. Where no other person get involved.otherwise things got beyond control. Don't argue in front of kids they should not think their father or mother is less than other.  For them both should remain on the same level. 

All decisions will be taken with full consent of both partners. Nobody should know whose idea it is or whose approval is this.  Husband and wife represent as one in all matters regardless how minor or major that issue is. If they implement this in their life both become peaceful and the bond get stronger with time.

Lastly become each othet's strength and do nothing which weakened the other. Both are like each others dresses. Husband's and wife's respect is One same thing. 

Always pass a smile to your spouse whenever have eye contact no matter how many times both look at each other. Smlie is an inexpensive gift which transfer positive energy to other and make them feel better it costs you nothing but results are endless. 

Adopt a habbit of keep yourself neat and tidy. Be well dressed soo that neither husband nor wife needs someone else to appreciate. Always appreciate eachother in all matters. And try their best to refrain from passing any negative comment.

If something went wrong while cooking or in any other core be patient and not create any fuss about it. We all are humans and bound to make mistakes. Let other knows it's okey if something is not up to mark,  the world did not end there. You have all life to practice and correct mistakes.