Teenage- Most confusing and critical time

We as humans go through different phases in life as we age our thinking change and our emotional needs change as well. As children the love of our parents and siblings is enough but when we enter our teens, we start changing internally as well as externally. We don't understand several things, we are unable to comprehend our feelings and do not know what exactly we want. This time is most Crucial of all for parents to act properly because when kids spend their teens unaware and didn't get proper answers to their questions and do not know how to deal with unseen feelings and thoughts, this lead them to wrong directions. They ask questions to wrong persons like their friends or try to search them on internet these days which communicate them wrong answers to right questions. They do not get to understand things the right way. Every coin has two sides one is positive and one is negitive. Their curiosity is natural and have nothing wrong but when not addressed properly it may take them to the pitts of darkness and Evil. When teens; kids tend to become shy and less talkative and expressive. It is time for parents to take first step, mothers sit with their daughters and fathers with their son ,and educate them gradually about the phase they are going through and told them at your age if you feel like this than its perfectly normal.  Guide them what is right and what is wrong and how to cope well with everything. Tell your kids they will go through several physical changes as well.

Firstly guide them a little before hand about their physical changes slowly and bit by bit.  So they won't be surprised when it actually happens.

Secondly tell them they are dearest to you. And no one in this world love them more than you do. Memorise them that they can ask you anything no matter how silly it is and you do not think any low of them. Help them and encourage them to talk to you on anything and everything.

Have close watch on what they are Watching, talking to their friends or siblings, in what sort of things they are interested etc. Guide them to a positive side keep them busy in some healthy hobbies. Give them different tasks which need them mentally and physically active encourage them to try new games (physical not video games) or new things like excersie Yoga or paint their shirts or give your boy hammer nails and few wood blocks and tell him to make anything he likes etc.  Find activities of their interest. These activities keep them busy and keep several thoughts at bay.  By night make sure their energy is completely drained out give them a warm glass of milk it will put them instantly to a sound sleep.

When they turned 14 or 15 just before passing out of school they are ready to know about emotional needs. Educate them about all the relationships and the Importance of them and value of faithfulness in them. It is time for them to know as they pass out and go to college and then university the attraction of opposite gender will increase and they have hundreds of opportunities for Gunnah. Satan will be around them 24/7 to get them distracted. Tell them its ok if they like someone they can tell you but it is not okey to tell them their likeness as they can misuse them. It will be a time where you draw a clear line between what is permissible and what is not. What they can and what they can't do. Tell them again and again that you love them and care for them. Don't make them feel suffocate, tell them how much they make you proud by keeping themselves away from all this boyfriend girlfriend shit. And all other social evils which now a days become sort of a fashion.

Give them targets to achieve in their studies and in their extra curricular activities and celebrate their achievements. Keep them busy in good things keep them focused by giving them rewards.

After intermediate kids go through an extremely difficult phase where they simply don't know whether they come on merit to their desired profession, or got admission in their desired university etc.

Try to raise strong and sensible human beings. Make your kids emotionally strong and teach them how to embrace their failures and keep going in life with a head high. They should know its okey if they fail in some area,  no one excells in everything, everybody has short comings. We all have different strengths and weaknesses. The moment we accept our weaknesses; we are prepare to transform them in strengths. 

If they didn't got admission in medical or engineering it does not mean that they fail it simply means they are not destined to be a good doctor or and engineers etc.  Always encourage your kids to have second option which they think they can be good at. Tell them being a doctor or an engineer is nothing to be proud of if they are not good at it. They follow their dreams and always choose a profession they think they can give their 100% to.  They always have their second options too, so they don't have much time to mourn over their failure and move on to their second choosen target. 

Lastly Memorise them, since they are kids that you are always with them in all circumstances and had their back.  They are not alone in anything. If they do any mistake you are here to correct them,  they have any question you are all answers no matter how ridiculous that question can be. Never ever make fun of your kid or tell them their question is ridiculous. They are innocent and sensitive, it will only damage their self esteem and make them introvert which is not good for them at all. 

Halp them grow physically and Emotionally. Give them your full attention and help making world a better place by upbringing a good human being which contribute something good rather than just increasing number of population on this planet. We don't lack people here what we lack is sensible human beings.